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Yeah - mind games and all that messin do my brain in - gimme good old honesty any day - if it hurts I'll get over it sooner than than I will a load of old lying codswallop

OK. Just spent the last hour in the very pleasant company of De Mello, ( old videos), and it freaked me out a bit how much we thought alike on all the important ( to my way of thinking), issues........

A lot of my life philosophies would probably have some from the same or similar sources........

No wonder the pope thought he was a bad influence......

Thanks for the reference HJ. I don't feel so much of a freak now after all. It surprised me to find out that instead of mostly getting it wrong, I was actually mostly getting it right for a change.......

Who is DeMello Ginger ?

its great to hear you are getting it right anyway.........

I always thought that my thinking was so outside the box on stuff like this that there was no hope for me ever "fitting in" or finding anyone who thought like me. Now I can actually laugh at that very idea.....

There a series of three of these videos of lectures by Anthony De Mello who was a Jesuit Priest with some broad minded and very sound philosophical ideas on love, life and reality that our present pope didn't take too kindly to...

Here is the link to the one on love........

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6408137179133075503

Really well worth spending a half hour or so with. The links to the other two are on that same page where this video is shown......

He will delight you Trish.......

In short, aside from the sex stuff, what turns you on about the opposite sex?

how do you define attraction? would the abscense of particular qualities be a total deal breaker? and which qualities/characteristics do you see as potentially being completely over the top?

In short, aside from the sex stuff, what turns you on about the opposite sex?

Imagination a must. If he can't think of what to say to stimulate you.. then maybe he's a dud in bed too!

I always thought that my thinking was so outside the box on stuff like this that there was no hope for me ever "fitting in" or finding anyone who thought like me. Now I can actually laugh at that very idea.....

There a series of three of these videos of lectures by Anthony De Mello who was a Jesuit Priest with some broad minded and very sound philosophical ideas on love, life and reality that our present pope didn't take too kindly to...

Here is the link to the one on love........

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6408137179133075503

Really well worth spending a half hour or so with. The links to the other two are on that same page where this video is shown......

He will delight you Trish.......

Imagination a must. If he can't think of what to say to stimulate you.. then maybe he's a dud in bed too!

i am soooo sorry, forgive me,

Why is it up to "him" to stimulate "you"??

OK. Just spent the last hour in the very pleasant company of De Mello, ( old videos), and it freaked me out a bit how much we thought alike on all the important ( to my way of thinking), issues........

A lot of my life philosophies would probably have some from the same or similar sources........

No wonder the pope thought he was a bad influence......

Thanks for the reference HJ. I don't feel so much of a freak now after all. It surprised me to find out that instead of mostly getting it wrong, I was actually mostly getting it right for a change.......

A very basic prerequisite HJ has to be that they are at least interesting, can at least bring personality to the table - male or female

A very basic prerequisite HJ has to be that they are at least interesting, can at least bring personality to the table - male or female

I don't have a long list of expectations, just the basics really.....

Sense of humour.
A kind heart.
Intellect.
Respectful.

The "basic prerequisites" demanded by so many, "may" be the reason so many are single and have been for so long..

Just a thought of mine..

It changed for me as I got older. I got past the "I'll go out with her cuz she's hot" to the personality (e.g., there's no way I'd go out with her) because we have absolutely nothing in common. I think if the personalities are similiar thats what works for me.

Im not thinking 'demands' HJ, its more a case of being interested in a person in the first place - they have to have the ability to attract, to have something which will entice if you like - the spark - and after that the ability to keep your interest

You will be forgiven "this time", just don't let it happen again..