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Mankind_: Hi Ambrose

Happy New Year,
I wish you that you achieve your desires in 2009.
Have you ever tried the Law of Attraction personally?

dsmidiman: Your correct, Chemistry is probably the wrong word to use, A better term would be physical attraction or "does she/he make you warm for thier form".... lol
Chemistry is about the warm fuzzy feeling one gets with simply holding hands or looking into the other one's eyes. Chemistry is about the warm comforting and secure feeling that comes with snuggling on the couch together to read a book or watch a movie. Chemistry is what can make sex so darn great but sex most certainly is not the major component of Chemistry.

Sommerauer71: I am struggling with what you are wondering about.

Chemistry is not just about sex.

gingerb: Well, I think feeling exactly the same way all the time would be rather absurd, and not an ideal at all. Different emotions seem entirely appropriate - if not inescapably attached - to different circumstances. Would you truly not wish to experience the special joy of (say) a wonderful lovemaking session, a hike to the top of a gorgeous mountain, or an exhilarating ski run - as opposed to the emotions generated by being stuck in traffic, dragging yourself out of bed Monday morning, or enduring the death of a close friend?

Stability cannot sensibly refer to a "monotonal" emotional state - that would be the province of zombies.

I would agree very much with what you are saying here, but would go further, and say that mental and emotional instability is an inability to express appropriate emotions consistant with the occasion.

For instance it would be showing instability in our emotional expression to smile if you were angry or being beaten or tortured, just as it would be wrong to not be able to express a feeling of joy with a whoop or laugh or shout or scream.

Many of the natural responses that small children have are actually appropriate responses emotionally to various situations, and many people spend most of their parental lives, taming down or eradicating these emotional responses in them, to socialise them, something I believe is wrong and screws people up in later life.

Many of the successful methods used to correct mental instability and emotional instability in adults, is to make them scream and cry and shout and do ridiculous things that make them laugh. They are also taught to re-live painful memories and express the appropriate responses in order to get better, even if what they express appears extreme.

I think that if one needs to shout, or dance around the kitchen, or scream, or beat hell out of a set of drums, cry, laugh or whatever the feeling inside you dictates, then it is appropriate to do it at that time, in keeping with what your holistic self needs to stay emotionally healthy.

Sommerauer71: I agree with JB, love is a drama in itself, we do become addicted to these feelings, especially at first, and yes, when a relationship begins to diminish then it is hard, but then it depends on how the people involved deal with it, if I felt my relationship was diminishing and he was losing interest, then I would ask him.

Wild horses will not make a person be with me if he does not want to be and I would be foolish to think otherwise. However much it hurts me.

And GG, is a lucky woman.

Mankind_: Hi there,

I am a believer that the LAW OF ATTRACTION works. Please share your experiences and knowledge about the LAW OF ATTRACTION as this universe has enough to give us everything that we have desire to have in our possessions and achieve our dreams.

frozensolid: it's freezing @$$ !!

kurt37: you know what im upset about / i take the time to send you a note or a im request and you never reply, what do you women think that your so much better, that theres a better guy than me / i know this may sound arrogant but , i am an honest to god true gentleman who if given a chance can show you what a real man can be like. i am not like any man you know i promise you that. its hard for me to send a nore and the least any of you can do is reply or am i just not good enough 4 u ? take a chance , what have you to lose / nothing.

jenae: I agree to a point, with you - Jason does appear to be a little quiet (or bland, if you prefer), but for me, that is part of the mystique and attractiveness about him. He doesn't come on' as a guy that thinks he's too "sexy" and too "hot" for the average. He comes off as being, warm, kind, considerate, attentive, and just, someone, that I know that I (myself) would appreciate being around.

The ole' saying goes, "it's alway's the quiet one's that make the hottest and best lover's"...

sweetowen: Yes, but the whole point of that show was the older women competing against the younger women. Just can't have one for US!

DazzleYou: put glasses on him and I swear he would look like George Kistanza

Sommerauer71: It is dramatic yes and a feeling that we become addicted to.

I have learnt from the negatives from my marriage and my last long relationship, because it was something that I knew I had played my part in.

Which takes me back to acceptance, accepting that any relationship is not usually the fault of one party, it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make one fail.

My ex husband left me for woman ten years younger than me, I could have sat in that misery for years, emotional stability and intelligence made me face up to the part I played in that break up and it did, it was not all of his fault, he ran to another for comfort and I stayed alone. Because I knew I had to, to recover. I did. But I hold no issue with him and his partner now, we are quite the nuclear family with us all getting along nicely.

That is emotional stability, acceptance. Being tooled enough to know that we can and will recover. The negatives are there when it goes wrong, but we need to feel the negatives to learn and recover.

sweetowen: I just wish they'd come out with a show geared more toward our age group. Why do you have to be young, handsome/beautiful, & wealthy to qualify for these shows??

sweetowen: Nothing wrong with thinning hair. But I honestly didn't notice that he was thinning out. I guess I was just too busy looking at the rest of him...

SexyAttorney: Would you rather be wealthy and live to be 50 OR be lower middle class and live to be 100?

jenae: Jason has, let me list the ways: 1. Looks, 2. Beautiful hair 3. Beautiful eyes, 4. Beautiful lips and smile 5. Beautiful body
Shall I go on, and on, and on ? ?

But, bald is beautiful too! And, you also look good, sir!..

jenae: Did anyone view The Bachelor (Jason Mesnick) on ABC, last night? OMG, Isn't he just about the most gorgeous man God ever put on this earth, or what?

Does anyone feel the same way that I feel? Did you think there was any bachelorette on there, that was even close to be deserving of this man?

And, then at the end of the show, they brought Deann back? She dumped him once!. I surely hope he doesn't pick her to be his wife...

I know, I watch entirely too much TV.. But, he is so handsome, sexy and lovable.. AND, the way he treats his son, is just amazing.. You can just feel the love and passion in this man's heart, body and soul..

Sommerauer71: Ah, you have been succint there Jeff, and you raise good points.

I am an emotional person, in that I feel, so joy, passion, smiling, being happy is part of my daily life, I am that way, so in that I glean enjoyment from something as simple as walking down the street, sadness and upset are part of that day as well, all of the emotions that I feel, I embrace, none of them are bad emotions to me, they are part of life, my life.

So when I say, I am the same, it is not monotonal, it is the way I am, I feel and hurt like the next person, it is just that I am tooled enough to be able to deal with them.