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This is a curious thread to me because I was in the same situation only I was the "Ex". My son was going to a french school (his mom is french) and I was still able to help him with most of his homework. Therefore from my point of view, it's a non issue. However, My boy was content in his home, had friends in the neighbourhood, had his own room and he was fine. His mom is a good mother and even asked me to see him more than every second weekend because he missed me so I picked him up every Wednesday night for dinner and I also coached his little league baseball team. There is no prefect solution other than mom and dad staying together and I hope your ex can see the possible disruption in his kids' lives. He sees them often now. From my view I hope he doesn't do anything that will make the kids not want to see him at all. Then the kids lose their dad and they need him. A song from Kris Kristofferson comes to mind. A couple of lines from "Daddy's Song" When he takes his daughter home she says "I wish that we lived together again. It gets so lonesome apart. I'm missing somebody all of the time. Daddy, it's breaking my heart."
Let's try to remember who is the innocent party that hurts the most.

Sure he is the guy she loved once but i think it is curious that all of a sudden he is after more time with the kids but the other son he has he couldn't care less about.
I think some of the comments here are right on the money.
1. There is another reason why he is after more time/shared time and i think the people here are right in saying it is a money issue!
2. If he does not care for the French education and gets pissed off at the teacher does not take part in any of the school activities then why bother? I don't think it is that healthy for the kids to see the father go off on a teacher.
3. The education for the kids is their future. If they are doing good in school now what is going to happen if he takes care of them one week and then they are back with their mom the next? In the week with the father they surely will fall behind with their work or get into trouble for forgetting or not doing homework because the father was not able to help. Consequently the grades will drop and the reportcard will look accordingly. The next week when their home again with mom they have to work double as hard to make up for what they missed.
4. It is also curious that he is ONLY communicating over e mail. That means he is after something cause a person who has no ulterior motive will talk face to face or on the phone. So there is a reason behind all of this. And i strongly believe that it is money!

Bailey listen! I am not to sure how far you have come with the discussion and your Ex and if the subject has dropped or if he is still pursuing it. I can just give you advice which is the same others have given you! Go and get some legal advice. Leave the arrangement the way it is cause it is the best for the kids! I have a feeling he is just trying to get a rise out of you and thought this way he could safe some money in support payments. And if you have a new boyfriend well there is the other reason why he wants to get to you! He does not like it!
Good luck and stay strong don't let him get to you!!

seems like you only think about yourself....so what he needs to be a part time father,..good for the kids and you...he is still the father of the kids...
I am sure your next boyfriend would be given the job as like a "full time father" but then..he might ask for custody of your kids...
yarie,yara...The kids are still better off seeing their real dad no matter what,b/c it's still family and he is the man you have loved once!
Good luck for all !

but do get a guy to put a worm on the hook?

By the way...I should add....

Clayton's new living room looks "remarkably" like my last living room....

Good luck to yous Bailey
As far as fairies that shouldn't be a problem there's lots out there.

she just does not feel secure yet with him.
I think she is being very open with him.
As he said, it is the on line thing, not in person with people.
maybe, she is sitting right there with him and he goes on line????

i look forward to your sparring jabs next time red and blue meet

Well i guess having your birthdays so close together assures they won't be forgotten in the years to come...

Happy birthday(s) to you both...hope you celebrate with a double "bang"...