Well, I have read some of the posts, but not all. I am a single mom, have a 4 year old and an almost 9 year old, and I can totally understand why a man who doesnt have kids/or woman for that matter/ would be hesitant to eter a relationship with kids. It is not something to be taken lightly as there are other lives involved. I personally wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt have kids as they have really no clue what to expect or to do with the kids!
My kids are my life. I love them, and they will always come before any man I may be in a relationship with, and that is hard for non parents to understand. People who have children already know and understand that they take a lot of time, energy, and work to try and raise them. There isnt much alone time, and there is always something going on with the kids to prevent you from being able to go out on a date, or have any "alone" time, so yeah I can see where a non parent would be overwhelmed by that.
Think back to how you felt about relationships before you had children. Would you have wanted to stay home most of the time with the kids, and have homework time each afternoon, football practices, dance lessons, and basically just run around all day doing things with or for the kidcs? Before I had kids I wanted to be the center of attention, wanted to go where I wanted and do what I wanted, and now, I know that it is a rare treat to be able to leave the house with out kids! Even to just go to the grocery store is an event with kids!
Children do add strain to a relationship, but one day there will be that perfect man/woman who will accept them as they do the parent, and who will understand and applaud the parents efforts in raising the child, and who will want to help out in some way. Until then, love your kids and let them fill the void of not being in a relationship. Between my kids and going back to college, I am spread pretty thin, and really dont have much time to try and get into a relationship. I know and accept that at this point, but in a few more years I will be done with school and have a great job, and then once I can take care of myself and my kids, then I will work on trying to get into another relationship, but until then, I will be more than happy to be here with my wonderful kids!
And YES SINGLE PARENTS ROCK!!!
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