did I do something wrong

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moonfoxinthesnow ALBUQUERQUE, New Mexico USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 1:38 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

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morganlee Qawra, Majjistral Malta

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 1:43 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

I don't think you did anything wrong. Can think of 2 reasons he acted this way.

He felt embarressed and thought it was a rejection.

He just has no patience, expected instant response

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langleygirl Langley, British Columbia Canada

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 1:47 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Truly maybe a bullet dodged ......... or more than likely a person who's tired of being rejected .... unfortunately seems to happen a lot on these sites. Maybe next time a quick note to say thanks - but I'm a little shy and you're being very direct and forward.

I don't think that you did anything wrong - but he definitely needs a new attitude and a fresh perspective of how he's coming across.

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anjel tempe, Arizona USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 1:48 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

I wouldnt want to date someone so oc like that....I mean, its a bit overbearing... But, jmo, if I get something like that, I may respond, and right to the point, "hey, got your note, but need to think about it, not a yes, but neither is it a no...I will get back to you soon, ciao". I would say something like that.

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redbellypirhana Phoenix, Arizona USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 1:50 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Truly a bullet dodged...

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Aries01 Dublin, Dublin Ireland

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 2:16 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

U just dodged a bullet... phew!!!! a NORMAL guy isn't 1. going to ask you out without at least introducing himself and chatting first.. 2. Is not going to expect a girl to accept an offer from a stranger out of the blue... I say you had a quardian angel guiding u... listen to your instincts... they are the most accurate guide we have

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moonfoxinthesnow ALBUQUERQUE, New Mexico USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 2:20 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

anjel: I wouldnt want to date someone so oc like that....I mean, its a bit overbearing... But, jmo, if I get something like that, I may respond, and right to the point, "hey, got your note, but need to think about it, not a yes, but neither is it a no...I will get back to you soon, ciao". I would say something like that.

Yeah, I can definitely see how sending someone a note like that would be courteous. But at this point, I think it was a bullet dodged too. Thanks for the feedback!!!

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rasgumby Moberly, Missouri USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 2:41 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

Hell, Just drop him a line and say, I would rather chat first for a bit to get to know you a bit.
Just going for it out of the blue is dangerous.

But he was clearly an asshole with a major problem

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Claayer Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 3:07 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

rasgumby: Hell, Just drop him a line and say, I would rather chat first for a bit to get to know you a bit.
Just going for it out of the blue is dangerous.

But he was clearly an asshole with a major problem

I agree.. particularly with that.

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Polanski Melbourne, Victoria Australia

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 3:35 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

You dodged a bullet sweetheart.
Sounds like a control freak and a damaged ego, if he loses it after not getting a reply within a few hours then imagine if you refused his advances. Take all the time you need to make decisions and sometimes a good one will be made for you in an ironic way.
Good luck sweetheart and ignore him its his loss.

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arja_ma Riga, Riga Latvia

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 3:55 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Aries01: U just dodged a bullet... phew!!!! a NORMAL guy isn't 1. going to ask you out without at least introducing himself and chatting first.. 2. Is not going to expect a girl to accept an offer from a stranger out of the blue... I say you had a quardian angel guiding u... listen to your instincts... they are the most accurate guide we have

I completely agree

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dcj22 Somewhere, South Dakota USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 4:58 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Yep, dodged

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Claayer Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 5:27 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

dcj22: Yep, dodged

Hi Dana

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dcj22 Somewhere, South Dakota USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 5:57 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Claayer: Hi Dana

Hi hun!!

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Portiea Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 8:40 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Polanski: You dodged a bullet sweetheart.
Sounds like a control freak and a damaged ego, if he loses it after not getting a reply within a few hours then imagine if you refused his advances. Take all the time you need to make decisions and sometimes a good one will be made for you in an ironic way.
Good luck sweetheart and ignore him its his loss.

agree

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hrt4lse Redding, California USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 9:30 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

Yep, I agree, you did nothing wrong.

Usually when I get a message like that, whether through a flower or email, that comes on strong right off the bat with phone & off site contact information, I'm the one putting them on ignore. I've found that generally they aren't sincere and are trying to lure a person off site to scam them. So don't worry about the reaction you got....he's not worth it.

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kurzita Xaghra, Gozo Malta

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 9:38 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Male perspective....

bullet dodged.

Any male who does not know how to WAIT on a women has it all wrong....

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rasgumby Moberly, Missouri USA

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 9:58 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Hell, I have been here for about 9 months and all of the ladys still dodge me

I really didn't know women could run so fast!

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Portiea Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

[top] Mon May 19, 2008 10:59 AM CST : did I do something wrong?

Male perspective....

bullet dodged.

Any male who does not know how to WAIT on a women has it all wrong....

A beautiful sentiment....

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