I'm confused & not sure what to do...

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tabyjean Shingle Springs, California USA
OK...I met this guy about 3 months ago that lives in my town from another on line dating site. I really like him but not sure what to do or what to think. I'm not going to tell his hole life story but here is why I'm confused.

We met & hit it off really well. He told me he was really interested in me & was in this for the long hall but we weren't together officially if you know what I mean. Anyways, he just got out of prison & is trying to get his life on the right track... He all the sudden vanishes for like 2 weeks than texts me asking if i could forgive someone who just vanished? I said yes cause I'm one who gives chances but asked why he did that. He told me that the person he was living with was given a 3 day notice that he couldn't be there or they would loose their apt. Now he's living in a men's christian home & working on getting things right in his life. He mad plans to come over 1day after helping his pregnant sister move...he text saying he was done & was going to call me when he got back to his mothers & never did! 2 days later he text saying he was sorry his sister worked his but off & it was getting late & he didn't know how to tell me without me getting mad & how much he wanted me. He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.

I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...
vonney Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Sorry but if you are having enough doubts to ask on here I think you know the answer.
kissmedeeply Asheville, North Carolina, North Carolina USA
To many sorry's if you are having doubt..thats ur answer...If this is how its starting out..i hate to see when you get together with him...I say move on b4 it gets to complicated...all the best..Joannehug
sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia
Wish I could say something positive but I believe if you pursue this it will only bring you trouble and heartache.hug



lola36 dublin, Dublin Ireland
Stay away from him....that would be my opinion...
Sorry to saying that....hug
cristybaby Greenbrier, Tennessee USA
Baby girl I have been there done that. I was with someone who was in prison for 5 years, and he was really "busy" when he got out. Yeah him and my best friend were really "busy" all right! Let him go girl and go find you a good man.



shipoker55 St. Petersburg, Florida USA
vonney: Sorry but if you are having enough doubts to ask on here I think you know the answer.


right on!



oslojente Olso Norway
I agree with the previous posts...

Ask yourself if you want this "drama" in your life...
Sounds like a lot of excuses to me...


Sorry!!

hug
Middy Yorkshire, North Yorkshire, England UK
Call me a cynic if you like but to me it looks like he's stringing you along. I'd say move on & forget about, there's plenty of folks out there who wont take you for granted & will treat you with respect, thumbs up smile



lostpoet4u Davenport, Florida USA
vonney: Sorry but if you are having enough doubts to ask on here I think you know the answer.


I agree thumbs up



morganlee Qawra, Majjistral Malta
vonney: Sorry but if you are having enough doubts to ask on here I think you know the answer.
thumbs up
PILIPALA Cardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK
I would go one strike and he would be out.

it three times he has let you down get rid
Arlene101 Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada
tabyjean: I think if you read thease words you worte over and over a few times you will see your own answer. I can see he is using you and VERY contolling and a whole lot of excuses. Don't sell yourself short and "SETTLE" for the first person to show you a little affection and attention. If I were you I would run and not walk out now before the going gets too rough.handshake wave
Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
He's either involved with another woman or some criminal activity. It's really that simple.comfort
PeachesandRay Concord, North Carolina USA
He's trouble, move on
Arlene101 Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada
Ambrose2007: He's either involved with another woman or some criminal activity. It's really that simple.
wave Hi Jeff: I saw your mugshot on here twice in the last 2 weeks when I signed in and today I saw this one you are using now.rolling on the floor laughing



kurzita Xaghra, Gozo Malta
I am continously amazed at how gullible one gets when craving to be loved.

Going to shout this out one more time:

BETTER ALONE THEN IN LOUSY COMPANY.....

Good luck lady.

wine
alabamabebe Banks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA
I concur with everyone else. Even giving him the benefit of a doubt, he might be a nice person, he needs to get his life straight before he drags someone else into it. You'd be better off with someone a little more stable.
mastic55 Long Island, New York USA
With all the new laws and rights he has to be gay....all joking aside, I been around for a while it sounds like he's setting you up to move in and live off you...jmo
Hugz_n_Kissez Someplace, Ontario Canada
oslojente: I agree with the previous posts...

Ask yourself if you want this "drama" in your life...
Sounds like a lot of excuses to me...Sorry!!



I have to agree....too many "I'm sorrys" and excuses....he's stringing you along and making sure your faithful...when he probably isn't...Do you really want a man who a) doesn't even have his own life in check...b) doesn't make you a priority and c) can't keep his word?????



dunno confused dunno




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